HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN AND SPARK ATTRACTION (THIS IS HOW A LADY WANTS YOU TO TALK TO HER)


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Imagine being on a hangout with your friends and suddenly, a drop-dead gorgeous lady that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip appear and everything you wanted to say to her seems to suddenly get sucked out of your brain and you’re left completely blank before you even have a chance to make a move, she disappears, never to be seen again. The truth is, there’re some ladies with such intimidating beauty, so if this has ever happened to you, don’t worry, you’re not alone, there are beautiful ladies like this in every part of the world irrespective of the color, race, Nationality..….etc. 

Most guys are just not taught how to talk to women when growing up, so after reading this article, you should be able to conquer that fright, who knows? She might be having feelings for you, you know most societies have just made it seem weird for ladies to ask a guy out, but with these few tips, you should ascertain if she’s interested in you or not.

Learning how to talk to girls and spark attraction is a learnable skill just like any other skill, so here are four tips to talk to women and spark attraction;

 

OPPOSITE ATTRACTION

As a guy, if you want to make a lady attracted to you, you should show her your masculine side. For there to be an attraction between the opposite sex, there needs to be polarity between masculine and feminine energy, the women that you probably find most appealing are deeply attracted to masculine men, just like a man is attracted to very feminine women, just like magnets, opposite poles attract and like poles repel. Make sure you show her your strong masculine side.

Another tip on how to talk to women and spark attraction is applying;

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EMOTION vs LOGIC

One common mistake that guys make when trying to talk to girls is that they communicated logically while they should be communicating emotionally. While logic certainly has its time in the place, it’s certainly not the language of attraction, women respond to emotions, let’s say you’re teasing them or breaking rapport, you’re spiking emotions of fun and excitement, and when you’re building connection, you’re spiking emotions of safety, security, and intimacy.

So instead, you need to speak through feelings and connect with her emotions, this doesn’t mean you’ll always be talking about feels, it should almost be like an emotional roller coaster where the emotions go all over the place, if it’s just flat-lined, and you’re probably going to end up in the friend zone. 

 

SELF AMUSEMENT

Yes! You read it correctly, self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like, it’s using the interaction as an opportunity to amuse yourself, honestly, and this is where most guys mess things up because they do the opposite, by always trying to amuse her, but that just comes up as needy, supplicating, and reaction seeking, of course, it wouldn’t work, once you get the hang of it, you’ll never run out of things to say, you’ll feel good talking about things that matter to you, instead of doing what other guys do in trying to entertain her, but when you’re interested in or amused by what you’re saying, you’ll be speaking with enthusiasm, passion, and confidence and the girl will naturally be interested as well.

Here are few ways to self-amuse: Talk about things that you’re passionate about, when you’re talking about your interest or hobbies, speak with passion in your voice, but remember that enthusiasm is contagious, debating on topics that you find interesting, but remember to avoid politics and religion unless in cases where her political view or religious view could be a deal-breaker, in such case(s), figure that out as soon as possible, you can also make jokes that you think are funny, regardless of whether she thinks it’s funny or not. But try not to offend her 

 

QUALIFICATION 

Heck no! What has qualification got to do with how to talk to women and spark attraction? That’s possibly what many people will ask, but I must be frank with you at this point, remember the saying that “A friend to all is a friend to none”. You shouldn’t go into the street, school, religious gathering, and work-place and begin to gather all the girls in town just because you’ve gotten the skill on how to talk to women and spark their attraction, that’ll probably be insane, you need to qualify those who’s your perfect match, ever wondered why the rate of divorce is just so high globally? Checkout your compatibility factors before going too deep that it’ll only take a divorce to relieve you of what you’ve gotten yourself into.

Qualifying a girl is just testing to see if she meets certain criteria that are important to you, and this demonstrates that you’re a man with standards, it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself to you, most importantly, it ensures that the women you’re allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround yourself with. Now before you qualify a woman, you’ll need to take time to figure out what’s important to you in a woman, for example: what personality trait do you value? How you want her to delight herself or anyone around her? How do you want her to be sexual, do you have feelings for her? The more precise you are with what you want in a woman, the clearer and easier it is for you to identify her whenever you encounter her image. Once you know what you want, you can simply ask her questions strategically to see if she matches the qualities that you’re looking for, don’t get it wrong at this point, certain qualities are primary qualities while certain qualities are secondary qualities, so make sure she matches your primary qualities. My primary qualities might be different from yours so stick to it, ever wondered why most marriages crash for a diverse reason? Marriages that are bounded by primary qualities are likely to stand the test of time, but those built of secondary qualities are prone to crash-landing if there arise storm, in my locality, a marriage crashed because the husband told his newly, beautifully wedded wife to always press the toothpaste from the bottom, but she insisted on pressing it from the middle, another marriage broke because the couples were arguing over a color illusion (a technique used by painters to make two different colors look the same), and it ended the marriage that day. 

Women love a man who’s a challenge, they don’t want to feel like you’re attracted to them just because of their look, or that they won you over just like that, women want to feel like she had to earn your attraction to her, they want a man who’s in charge, not the reversal. So when you’re talking to a woman with courage, you’ll win her attraction.

NOTE: the best time to check if a woman meets your qualification is before going deep into the relationship, to avoid any emotional trauma.

Hopefully, you’ve understood how powerful it is to be the type of man who knows how to talk to women and spark attraction in a way that demonstrates that he has standards.