How Can I know the right person for me?

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As a lady, Is it possible to know a man suitable for you, or as a man do you think knowing the right lady in our slaying era is an easy task?
Well, the truth is that knowing the right lady or man is one thing, but finding him or her is quite yet a different ball game.

On the scale of 100%, statistics show that Ladies go with 65% while 35% in the population. Men are few while ladies are the majority.
Now draws the puzzle, How can a lady find a suitable man since men are few and how can a man find the lady of her heart amidst all these numerous beautiful ladies in the world today?

The answer is very very clear and simple. This article will talk about three (3) key factors you should focus on when you as a man show interest in a lady or also you as a lady being approached by a man. We will also consider sterling examples from a few Men and Ladies who were also in this adventure of finding the right person agreeable to their heart but before then let's discuss the first key factor.

1. DRESSING AND GROOMING

 The clothing we put on and the manner we put them on speaks a whole lot about us individually. Our dressing and grooming portray our lifestyle, our culture, our beliefs, our attitude, and our intentions.

Let's take for instance you see a lady wearing a short skirt with exposing blouse, what's comes to your mind, a slut or a decent girl? Okay what about a guy wearing Rough trousers with tattoos all over his body, will you say such a guy is a gentleman or tout? The response to the question fittingly harmonizes with this common saying "You're addressed as you dress."
On the other hand, There's nothing wrong to look attractive and elegant, But do that with modesty and soundness of mind.

Sara, a 25-year-old sprinter, who lives in Paris, France, narrates how she met the man of her heart."I spotted a man from afar approaching my direction with a nice and well-shaved beard with a cool dressing sense, I was immediately attracted
to him. I liked his way of dressing and that met up with my satisfaction.

If you want to know the right man or lady, The first key factor to focus on is her or his manner of dressing and grooming.
As a lady ask yourself, am I comfortable with how he grooms his hairstyle, beards, mustache? His way of dressing both casual and corporate is good to your liking?

Also as a man, Do you like her manner of dressing, is it too short, too revealing or is it moderate? If you tick yes ✅ for his or her way of dressing and grooming, it, therefore, means He or She passes the first test. Let's talk about the second key factor.

2. VALUES AND GOALS

 Knowing each other's values and goals can only be achieved if there is heart to heart conversation. Values include family, spirituality, personal growth, ambition, interests, hobbies, etc, and having healthy conversations related to all these are very very important and crucial to be assured that you and your man or woman are on the same page for something serious.

A healthy conversation does not mean that you both will not have conflict or argument. You are likely not to agree on everything with your potential spouse for you to judge if he or she is the right person for you. Rather than focusing on how much you both agree on things, it might be educated to look out on how he or she handles disagreement, conflict, or argument especially when the issue is of no big deal.

Watch out when arguing, If he or she is prone to use foul words, uncontrolled anger, or if he or she is quick to yield at least for peace to reign. Taking note of all these will help you to see if he or she is the person your heart rightly needs.

"She was very jealous, manipulative, and possessive says George, Who lives in the Southern Part of Brazil." We were constantly fighting orally sometimes using fists because she couldn't stand me having casual talks with other ladies. I cut it off because that was a bad sign, He concluded.


When it comes to Values, Do think He or she meets up to your degree? Can you withstand him or her when an argument or disagreement pops up? If you tick no ❌ for these, you are certainly sure that he or she is not the right person for you to stay forever with. Let's take the third and the last but not the least factor.


ATTITUDE MATTERS:
According to one relationship expert in Berlin, Jeffery Niclaus, on one of his research projects, He said: "Opening your heart to someone strange is very risky but the right attitude triumphs the risk." Nicklaus added that the major traits to look out for to determine if the person is rightly yours and the relationship will be long-lasting are kindness and generosity.

How does he or she treat you, kindly or harshly?
Is his or her kindness momentarily or that's the real him or her? Don't just focus on the surface. Don't allow love to minimize or condone what you will not tolerate in the long run course.

Kindness from him or her should not be limited only to you. It should be extended to your family, friends, anybody. Take a closer look at how he or she treats others, choice of words, and many more because how he or she treats others is the same way you will be treated.

A 23-year-old student at the University of Lagos in the Western part of Nigeria, explains why she couldn't believe that such an awful attitude from her Boyfriend was habitual. She said "My boyfriend always acted nice as an angel around me and treated me like an egg which made me believe deepest down in my heart that He is my" God-sent". My friends did tell me nasty things about him when I'm not around but it was very difficult for me to believe since I spent almost all my time with him not until one day I invited him to come let's go and visit my mother."

"He was three hours late to the appointment, said Sylvia and when He arrived, He said: 'We are late!' Not I'm late but We're late!' He should have at least apologized or explained himself but he didn't and I chose to overlook that and went on with the appointment. When we arrived, my mother opened the door and welcome us inside but My boyfriend ignored my mother's pleasantry and went straight to the couch. He disrespected my mother right in my presence and worst of it all, He felt so discomfort and jealous seeing me around My family to the extent of walking out on us and left me behind.

Of course, I know that a single disappointing act or trait does not doom a relationship but when I realize that His rudeness was habitual not just a momentary incident, I had to conclude that He wasn't right for me and I called off the relationship and I am so glad that I did!

What if, like Sylvia, you determine that the person you're dating or about to date would not be the right marriage partner for you? If so, don't ignore your feelings! In as much as it seems hard to accept, it might be of best interest to end the relationship at least until the problem is corrected.

SUMMARY OF THIS ARTICLE
This article fishes out the 3 major factors that you should look out for when considering if the person is right for you not. These are; Dressing and Grooming, Values and Goals, and Attitude!

Keep considering all these so that you can make the right choice and decision and more to that while looking out for a person with all these mentioned so far, You, too, try to build yourself up with all these.